{"id":7380,"date":"2015-09-17T13:54:11","date_gmt":"2015-09-17T19:54:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/memberpress.com\/?p=7380"},"modified":"2021-03-15T11:38:47","modified_gmt":"2021-03-15T17:38:47","slug":"6-best-ways-to-get-what-you-want","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/memberpress.com\/fr\/blog\/6-best-ways-to-get-what-you-want\/","title":{"rendered":"6 Best Ways to Get What You Want"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>This may come off sounding like an extremely selfish topic for a blog post. In a way, it is, just not the way you might be thinking. Sometimes \u201cgetting what you want\u201d can be seen as a negative self-centered idea. Ideally, a great person should be giving and kind and not concerned too much about themselves or what they want.<\/p><div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_81 ez-toc-wrap-center counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-custom ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<label for=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-69c01ed66762e\" class=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-label\"><p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">WHAT'S INSIDE<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-cssicon\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #000000;color:#000000\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #000000;color:#000000\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/label><input type=\"checkbox\"  id=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-69c01ed66762e\"  \/><nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/memberpress.com\/fr\/blog\/6-best-ways-to-get-what-you-want\/#1_Ask\" >1. Ask<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/memberpress.com\/fr\/blog\/6-best-ways-to-get-what-you-want\/#2_Be_prepared_to_handle_it\" >2. Be prepared to handle it<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/memberpress.com\/fr\/blog\/6-best-ways-to-get-what-you-want\/#3_Be_persistent\" >3. Be persistent<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/memberpress.com\/fr\/blog\/6-best-ways-to-get-what-you-want\/#4_Set_goals_track_scoreboard\" >4. Set goals, track, scoreboard<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/memberpress.com\/fr\/blog\/6-best-ways-to-get-what-you-want\/#5_Study_people_who_have_what_you_want\" >5. Study people who have what you want<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/memberpress.com\/fr\/blog\/6-best-ways-to-get-what-you-want\/#6_Help_others_get_what_they_want\" >6. Help others get what they want<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-7\" href=\"https:\/\/memberpress.com\/fr\/blog\/6-best-ways-to-get-what-you-want\/#Summary\" >Summary<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n\n\n\n\n<p>However, I think I am looking at this from a unique perspective. An example of \u201cgetting what you want\u201d could be providing a meal for a needy family or teaching someone how to handle a task for themselves that others had previously done for them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It doesn\u2019t have to be a narcissistic exercise. In a very real way \u201cgetting what you want\u201d is what we are about all day every day. Even if it is consumed with helping others and eschewing things for ourselves, it is what we want and have chosen to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I am conveniently leaving out the reality that many people are forced to do things they don\u2019t want to do every day. That is a very real circumstance for many in this world. I think the vast majority of us in this day and age are able to live out our days with relative freedom to do and choose what we want to do. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We all want something. Our wants are as diverse as we are as a people. And I believe the following tips will help you in realizing your wants no matter what they are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_Ask\"><\/span>1. Ask<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>This is also known as the first rule of negotiation. If you don\u2019t ask for it, you won\u2019t get it. It is almost impossible for something to appear out of thin air just because the thought crossed your mind. You will be amazed at how much you can accomplish if you just ask. So many of us are afraid to ask for fear of being rejected or out of some cultural idea that it isn\u2019t appropriate to do so. If you can get over that fear then the sky is the limit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I was taught this principle by a man I used to work for, Author Richard Paul Evans. He wrote a book called, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.richardpaulevans.com\/portfolio-item\/the-5-lessons-a-millionaire-taught-me\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">The 5 Lessons a Millionaire Taught Me About Life and Wealth.<\/a>\u00a0 One of the things said millionaire taught me was to ask, \u201cIs that the best you can do for me?\u201d when participating in just about any transaction. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It is amazing what people will do for you when you ask this simple question. It doesn\u2019t have to be confrontational like you are driving a hard bargain. It\u2019s just a simple question. If they say \u201cno,\u201d then you smile, say thanks, and move on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This isn't to say that you will get everything you want just by asking for it. It is more of a tool you can use to get further down the path to achieving something. If rejected, quickly move on to the next method of going after what you want. Don\u2019t let the rejection stop you. You will be able to just file away the thought that at least you asked first.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_Be_prepared_to_handle_it\"><\/span>2. Be prepared to handle it<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>This is one that most people don\u2019t think of and is a surprisingly new concept to many. Have you ever had an experience where you thought you wanted something and then went to work getting it only to realize maybe it wasn\u2019t such a great thing to want in the first place? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Some people go after fame only to realize later that they have lost their privacy and their ability to move about freely. Or, seeking a big promotion only to find out that the requirements of the new job don\u2019t really jive with what they saw for their career. One of the first things we should think about when deciding we want something is to ask ourselves if we are ready to deal with whatever comes with that thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A common material thing wanted and then regretted are boats. Many people love the \u2018idea\u2019 of having a boat. They fall in love with the idea of being out on the water with family and friends and being able to see beautiful places and enjoy the world in a new way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Then the costs and the problems of storage and maintenance hit and it\u2019s not such a great idea anymore. A little research and study into what it takes to own and maintain a boat before purchasing would prepare one to know what they are getting into. Maybe they would realize it would be too much for them and that an occasional boat rental would satisfy their wants better. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Maybe the \u2018costs\u2019 wouldn\u2019t scare one away but now you are prepared when they do come up. The bottom line is that a little thinking and preparation before you actually get your \u2018want\u2019 will go a long way towards your happiness after you get it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_Be_persistent\"><\/span>3. Be persistent<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>One of the most common things in this life is deciding you want something, going after it, and then giving up on the idea at the first sign of difficulty. It gets explained away as \u201cwell, maybe I didn\u2019t really want that after all.\u201d That may actually be true but I suspect more often than not it\u2019s not the whole story. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>How great a feeling it is when we work hard for something and go through a lot of pain to get it and then when we finally achieve it we feel like we\u2019ve conquered the world! Knowing before you start working toward something that you will be faced with challenges and difficulties will help you get through them easier.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That being said, a key part of being persistent is knowing when to actually quit. Some people will just never give up. This is often looked at as a virtue and a strength. It is actually a weakness. The real strength is developing the skill of discernment to know when it\u2019s time to turn the persistence off and move on. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cI never gave up and persisted till I got what I wanted, therefore, it was right and good.\u201d That is the generally accepted belief but it is oftentimes wrong. Not getting what you want is seen as a failure. A smart person sees that \u2018failure\u2019 as a lesson. A lesson in learning better what they really want and changing course to achieve it. In short, don\u2019t give up but know when to give up. Sounds contradictory but it isn\u2019t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4_Set_goals_track_scoreboard\"><\/span>4. Set goals, track, scoreboard<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>A goal not written down is just a wish. We have all heard that at least a thousand times. It may not be 100% true but it carries a lot of weight. Writing something down is a very physical way to commit to something. Psychologically it flips a switch in your head and makes it more real. Now you have some accountability. To yourself. You should also share your goals with others such as a close loved one or a trusted colleague and take that accountability to the next level.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A part of setting goals that often gets forgotten and left out is tracking and score boarding. Tracking our progress toward getting something we want is crucial for success. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.franklincovey.com\/the-4-disciplines\/discipline-3-scoreboard.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Scoreboarding<\/a> is a practice where you take any metrics associated with your goal and display them somewhere easy to see. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Hence the use of the word \u2018scoreboard.' It is a near constant reminder of how you are doing against your goals. For example, if you were working towards a college degree you could track your remaining credit hours needed for graduation. Display the number where you will see it often and it will remind you how much further you have to go and will motivate you to keep up your efforts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Some things are harder to track than others but many things you won't have some kind of number associated with them. Saving money for a boat for example. Put that number somewhere visible and you may choose to skip an \u2018eat-out\u2019 and have tuna sandwiches one night so that you can reach your boat goal sooner. Out of sight out of mind definitely applies here.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5_Study_people_who_have_what_you_want\"><\/span>5. Study people who have what you want<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>No matter what it is you want there is likely someone else out there that has it or has achieved it before you. Study those people. Try to learn how they achieved what you are trying to achieve. What did they have to do to be successful in getting what they wanted? Find out the challenges and difficulties they faced. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you can, talk to them and ask them what they would do differently. This simple step can help you avoid wasting a lot of time, effort, and even money in getting what you want. This step has an element of step 1. Ask. Simple conversations with people can teach you a lot. A lot of people will admire your interest and might even offer to help you to achieve your goals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6_Help_others_get_what_they_want\"><\/span>6. Help others get what they want<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>I believe in Karma, reaping what you sow, the Golden Rule or whatever you choose to call it. Serving and helping others will earn you blessings from the universe. What you do and how you treat others really will come back to you. It\u2019s impossible to quantify, and you may never know exactly when the universe pays up. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Spending time helping others to achieve what they want will have two effects. First, you will build up good Karma that can help you in your efforts to achieve what you want. And second, it will help you learn. You will learn what motivates others and what different ways there are to get things done in this world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There is a catch however. Serving others with the sole purpose of helping yourself will backfire. You must honestly and with a genuine heart seek to help others overcome their challenges and achieve what they are striving for. There is a secret side benefit I will share with you now. Service to others has an effect of changing the things you want. You might end up deciding that boat isn\u2019t such a great idea after all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Summary\"><\/span>Summary<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>The main point I am trying to get across with this topic is that if you go at getting what you want in a haphazard, unorganized way then it will be a minor miracle if you actually accomplish anything. The old adage, \u201cIf you don\u2019t know where you are headed, every road will get you there\u201d applies here. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Setting a goal for a want, asking for that want, persisting towards the want, preparing yourself to receive that want, studying others who already have what you want, and helping others get what they want will get you most of the way to getting what you want. However, sometimes things just aren\u2019t meant to be. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>After a concerted effort following these steps you can assure yourself that is true because you will have done everything you can to make it happen. Good luck in your efforts to get what you want and I sincerely hope you \u2018want\u2019 and \u2018get\u2019 good things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Let me know what you think and share your own tips for getting what you want in the comments.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This may come off sounding like an extremely selfish topic for a blog post. In a way, it is, just not the way you might be thinking. Sometimes \u201cgetting what you want\u201d can be seen as a negative self-centered idea. 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In a way, it is, just not the way you might be thinking. Sometimes \u201cgetting what you want\u201d can be seen as a negative self-centered idea. Ideally, a great person should be giving and kind and not concerned too much about themselves or what they want.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"This may come off sounding like an extremely selfish topic for a blog post. In a way, it is, just not the way you might be thinking. Sometimes \u201cgetting what you want\u201d can be seen as a negative self-centered idea. Ideally, a great person should be giving and kind and not concerned too much about themselves or what they want."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"<p>However, I think I am looking at this from a unique perspective. An example of \u201cgetting what you want\u201d could be providing a meal for a needy family or teaching someone how to handle a task for themselves that others had previously done for them. <\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"However, I think I am looking at this from a unique perspective. An example of \u201cgetting what you want\u201d could be providing a meal for a needy family or teaching someone how to handle a task for themselves that others had previously done for them. "}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"<p>It doesn\u2019t have to be a narcissistic exercise. In a very real way \u201cgetting what you want\u201d is what we are about all day every day. Even if it is consumed with helping others and eschewing things for ourselves, it is what we want and have chosen to do.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"It doesn\u2019t have to be a narcissistic exercise. In a very real way \u201cgetting what you want\u201d is what we are about all day every day. Even if it is consumed with helping others and eschewing things for ourselves, it is what we want and have chosen to do."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"<p>I am conveniently leaving out the reality that many people are forced to do things they don\u2019t want to do every day. That is a very real circumstance for many in this world. I think the vast majority of us in this day and age are able to live out our days with relative freedom to do and choose what we want to do. <\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"I am conveniently leaving out the reality that many people are forced to do things they don\u2019t want to do every day. That is a very real circumstance for many in this world. I think the vast majority of us in this day and age are able to live out our days with relative freedom to do and choose what we want to do. "}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"<p>We all want something. Our wants are as diverse as we are as a people. And I believe the following tips will help you in realizing your wants no matter what they are.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"We all want something. Our wants are as diverse as we are as a people. And I believe the following tips will help you in realizing your wants no matter what they are."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/heading","render":"<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1. Ask<\/h2>","content":"1. 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So many of us are afraid to ask for fear of being rejected or out of some cultural idea that it isn\u2019t appropriate to do so. If you can get over that fear then the sky is the limit."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"<p>I was taught this principle by a man I used to work for, Author Richard Paul Evans. He wrote a book called, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.richardpaulevans.com\/portfolio-item\/the-5-lessons-a-millionaire-taught-me\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">The 5 Lessons a Millionaire Taught Me About Life and Wealth.<\/a>\u00a0 One of the things said millionaire taught me was to ask, \u201cIs that the best you can do for me?\u201d when participating in just about any transaction. <\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"I was taught this principle by a man I used to work for, Author Richard Paul Evans. He wrote a book called, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.richardpaulevans.com\/portfolio-item\/the-5-lessons-a-millionaire-taught-me\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">The 5 Lessons a Millionaire Taught Me About Life and Wealth.<\/a>\u00a0 One of the things said millionaire taught me was to ask, \u201cIs that the best you can do for me?\u201d when participating in just about any transaction. "}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"<p>It is amazing what people will do for you when you ask this simple question. It doesn\u2019t have to be confrontational like you are driving a hard bargain. It\u2019s just a simple question. If they say \u201cno,\u201d then you smile, say thanks, and move on.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"It is amazing what people will do for you when you ask this simple question. It doesn\u2019t have to be confrontational like you are driving a hard bargain. It\u2019s just a simple question. If they say \u201cno,\u201d then you smile, say thanks, and move on."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"<p>This isn't to say that you will get everything you want just by asking for it. It is more of a tool you can use to get further down the path to achieving something. If rejected, quickly move on to the next method of going after what you want. Don\u2019t let the rejection stop you. You will be able to just file away the thought that at least you asked first.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"This isn't to say that you will get everything you want just by asking for it. It is more of a tool you can use to get further down the path to achieving something. If rejected, quickly move on to the next method of going after what you want. Don\u2019t let the rejection stop you. You will be able to just file away the thought that at least you asked first."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/heading","render":"<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2. Be prepared to handle it<\/h2>","content":"2. Be prepared to handle it","data":[],"style":{"align":"left","parent_style":{},"header":"h2","fontSize":"27px"}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"<p>This is one that most people don\u2019t think of and is a surprisingly new concept to many. Have you ever had an experience where you thought you wanted something and then went to work getting it only to realize maybe it wasn\u2019t such a great thing to want in the first place? <\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"This is one that most people don\u2019t think of and is a surprisingly new concept to many. Have you ever had an experience where you thought you wanted something and then went to work getting it only to realize maybe it wasn\u2019t such a great thing to want in the first place? "}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"<p>Some people go after fame only to realize later that they have lost their privacy and their ability to move about freely. Or, seeking a big promotion only to find out that the requirements of the new job don\u2019t really jive with what they saw for their career. One of the first things we should think about when deciding we want something is to ask ourselves if we are ready to deal with whatever comes with that thing.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"Some people go after fame only to realize later that they have lost their privacy and their ability to move about freely. Or, seeking a big promotion only to find out that the requirements of the new job don\u2019t really jive with what they saw for their career. One of the first things we should think about when deciding we want something is to ask ourselves if we are ready to deal with whatever comes with that thing."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"<p>A common material thing wanted and then regretted are boats. Many people love the \u2018idea\u2019 of having a boat. They fall in love with the idea of being out on the water with family and friends and being able to see beautiful places and enjoy the world in a new way. <\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"A common material thing wanted and then regretted are boats. Many people love the \u2018idea\u2019 of having a boat. They fall in love with the idea of being out on the water with family and friends and being able to see beautiful places and enjoy the world in a new way. "}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"<p>Then the costs and the problems of storage and maintenance hit and it\u2019s not such a great idea anymore. A little research and study into what it takes to own and maintain a boat before purchasing would prepare one to know what they are getting into. Maybe they would realize it would be too much for them and that an occasional boat rental would satisfy their wants better. <\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"Then the costs and the problems of storage and maintenance hit and it\u2019s not such a great idea anymore. A little research and study into what it takes to own and maintain a boat before purchasing would prepare one to know what they are getting into. Maybe they would realize it would be too much for them and that an occasional boat rental would satisfy their wants better. "}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"<p>Maybe the \u2018costs\u2019 wouldn\u2019t scare one away but now you are prepared when they do come up. The bottom line is that a little thinking and preparation before you actually get your \u2018want\u2019 will go a long way towards your happiness after you get it.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"Maybe the \u2018costs\u2019 wouldn\u2019t scare one away but now you are prepared when they do come up. The bottom line is that a little thinking and preparation before you actually get your \u2018want\u2019 will go a long way towards your happiness after you get it."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/heading","render":"<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3. 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"}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"<p>How great a feeling it is when we work hard for something and go through a lot of pain to get it and then when we finally achieve it we feel like we\u2019ve conquered the world! Knowing before you start working toward something that you will be faced with challenges and difficulties will help you get through them easier.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"How great a feeling it is when we work hard for something and go through a lot of pain to get it and then when we finally achieve it we feel like we\u2019ve conquered the world! Knowing before you start working toward something that you will be faced with challenges and difficulties will help you get through them easier."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"<p>That being said, a key part of being persistent is knowing when to actually quit. Some people will just never give up. This is often looked at as a virtue and a strength. It is actually a weakness. The real strength is developing the skill of discernment to know when it\u2019s time to turn the persistence off and move on. <\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"That being said, a key part of being persistent is knowing when to actually quit. Some people will just never give up. This is often looked at as a virtue and a strength. It is actually a weakness. The real strength is developing the skill of discernment to know when it\u2019s time to turn the persistence off and move on. "}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"<p>\u201cI never gave up and persisted till I got what I wanted, therefore, it was right and good.\u201d That is the generally accepted belief but it is oftentimes wrong. Not getting what you want is seen as a failure. A smart person sees that \u2018failure\u2019 as a lesson. A lesson in learning better what they really want and changing course to achieve it. In short, don\u2019t give up but know when to give up. Sounds contradictory but it isn\u2019t.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"\u201cI never gave up and persisted till I got what I wanted, therefore, it was right and good.\u201d That is the generally accepted belief but it is oftentimes wrong. Not getting what you want is seen as a failure. A smart person sees that \u2018failure\u2019 as a lesson. A lesson in learning better what they really want and changing course to achieve it. In short, don\u2019t give up but know when to give up. Sounds contradictory but it isn\u2019t."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/heading","render":"<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">4. Set goals, track, scoreboard<\/h2>","content":"4. Set goals, track, scoreboard","data":[],"style":{"align":"left","parent_style":{},"header":"h2","fontSize":"27px"}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"<p>A goal not written down is just a wish. We have all heard that at least a thousand times. It may not be 100% true but it carries a lot of weight. Writing something down is a very physical way to commit to something. Psychologically it flips a switch in your head and makes it more real. Now you have some accountability. To yourself. You should also share your goals with others such as a close loved one or a trusted colleague and take that accountability to the next level.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"A goal not written down is just a wish. We have all heard that at least a thousand times. It may not be 100% true but it carries a lot of weight. Writing something down is a very physical way to commit to something. Psychologically it flips a switch in your head and makes it more real. Now you have some accountability. To yourself. You should also share your goals with others such as a close loved one or a trusted colleague and take that accountability to the next level."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"<p>A part of setting goals that often gets forgotten and left out is tracking and score boarding. Tracking our progress toward getting something we want is crucial for success. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.franklincovey.com\/the-4-disciplines\/discipline-3-scoreboard.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Scoreboarding<\/a> is a practice where you take any metrics associated with your goal and display them somewhere easy to see. <\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"A part of setting goals that often gets forgotten and left out is tracking and score boarding. Tracking our progress toward getting something we want is crucial for success. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.franklincovey.com\/the-4-disciplines\/discipline-3-scoreboard.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Scoreboarding<\/a> is a practice where you take any metrics associated with your goal and display them somewhere easy to see. "}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"<p>Hence the use of the word 'scoreboard.' It is a near constant reminder of how you are doing against your goals. For example, if you were working towards a college degree you could track your remaining credit hours needed for graduation. Display the number where you will see it often and it will remind you how much further you have to go and will motivate you to keep up your efforts. <\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"Hence the use of the word 'scoreboard.' It is a near constant reminder of how you are doing against your goals. For example, if you were working towards a college degree you could track your remaining credit hours needed for graduation. Display the number where you will see it often and it will remind you how much further you have to go and will motivate you to keep up your efforts. "}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"<p>Some things are harder to track than others but many things you won't have some kind of number associated with them. Saving money for a boat for example. Put that number somewhere visible and you may choose to skip an \u2018eat-out\u2019 and have tuna sandwiches one night so that you can reach your boat goal sooner. Out of sight out of mind definitely applies here.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"Some things are harder to track than others but many things you won't have some kind of number associated with them. Saving money for a boat for example. Put that number somewhere visible and you may choose to skip an \u2018eat-out\u2019 and have tuna sandwiches one night so that you can reach your boat goal sooner. Out of sight out of mind definitely applies here."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/heading","render":"<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">5. Study people who have what you want<\/h2>","content":"5. Study people who have what you want","data":[],"style":{"align":"left","parent_style":{},"header":"h2","fontSize":"27px"}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"<p>No matter what it is you want there is likely someone else out there that has it or has achieved it before you. Study those people. Try to learn how they achieved what you are trying to achieve. What did they have to do to be successful in getting what they wanted? Find out the challenges and difficulties they faced. <\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"No matter what it is you want there is likely someone else out there that has it or has achieved it before you. Study those people. Try to learn how they achieved what you are trying to achieve. What did they have to do to be successful in getting what they wanted? Find out the challenges and difficulties they faced. "}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"<p>If you can, talk to them and ask them what they would do differently. This simple step can help you avoid wasting a lot of time, effort, and even money in getting what you want. This step has an element of step 1. Ask. Simple conversations with people can teach you a lot. A lot of people will admire your interest and might even offer to help you to achieve your goals.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"If you can, talk to them and ask them what they would do differently. This simple step can help you avoid wasting a lot of time, effort, and even money in getting what you want. This step has an element of step 1. Ask. Simple conversations with people can teach you a lot. A lot of people will admire your interest and might even offer to help you to achieve your goals."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/heading","render":"<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">6. Help others get what they want<\/h2>","content":"6. Help others get what they want","data":[],"style":{"align":"left","parent_style":{},"header":"h2","fontSize":"27px"}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"<p>I believe in Karma, reaping what you sow, the Golden Rule or whatever you choose to call it. Serving and helping others will earn you blessings from the universe. What you do and how you treat others really will come back to you. It\u2019s impossible to quantify, and you may never know exactly when the universe pays up. <\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"I believe in Karma, reaping what you sow, the Golden Rule or whatever you choose to call it. Serving and helping others will earn you blessings from the universe. What you do and how you treat others really will come back to you. It\u2019s impossible to quantify, and you may never know exactly when the universe pays up. "}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"<p>Spending time helping others to achieve what they want will have two effects. First, you will build up good Karma that can help you in your efforts to achieve what you want. And second, it will help you learn. You will learn what motivates others and what different ways there are to get things done in this world.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"Spending time helping others to achieve what they want will have two effects. First, you will build up good Karma that can help you in your efforts to achieve what you want. And second, it will help you learn. You will learn what motivates others and what different ways there are to get things done in this world."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"<p>There is a catch however. Serving others with the sole purpose of helping yourself will backfire. You must honestly and with a genuine heart seek to help others overcome their challenges and achieve what they are striving for. There is a secret side benefit I will share with you now. Service to others has an effect of changing the things you want. You might end up deciding that boat isn\u2019t such a great idea after all.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"There is a catch however. Serving others with the sole purpose of helping yourself will backfire. You must honestly and with a genuine heart seek to help others overcome their challenges and achieve what they are striving for. There is a secret side benefit I will share with you now. Service to others has an effect of changing the things you want. You might end up deciding that boat isn\u2019t such a great idea after all."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/heading","render":"<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Summary<\/h2>","content":"Summary","data":[],"style":{"align":"left","parent_style":{},"header":"h2","fontSize":"27px"}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"<p>The main point I am trying to get across with this topic is that if you go at getting what you want in a haphazard, unorganized way then it will be a minor miracle if you actually accomplish anything. The old adage, \u201cIf you don\u2019t know where you are headed, every road will get you there\u201d applies here. <\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"The main point I am trying to get across with this topic is that if you go at getting what you want in a haphazard, unorganized way then it will be a minor miracle if you actually accomplish anything. The old adage, \u201cIf you don\u2019t know where you are headed, every road will get you there\u201d applies here. "}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"<p>Setting a goal for a want, asking for that want, persisting towards the want, preparing yourself to receive that want, studying others who already have what you want, and helping others get what they want will get you most of the way to getting what you want. However, sometimes things just aren\u2019t meant to be. <\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"Setting a goal for a want, asking for that want, persisting towards the want, preparing yourself to receive that want, studying others who already have what you want, and helping others get what they want will get you most of the way to getting what you want. However, sometimes things just aren\u2019t meant to be. "}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"<p>After a concerted effort following these steps you can assure yourself that is true because you will have done everything you can to make it happen. Good luck in your efforts to get what you want and I sincerely hope you \u2018want\u2019 and \u2018get\u2019 good things.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"After a concerted effort following these steps you can assure yourself that is true because you will have done everything you can to make it happen. Good luck in your efforts to get what you want and I sincerely hope you \u2018want\u2019 and \u2018get\u2019 good things."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}},{"type":"core\/paragraph","render":"<p>Let me know what you think and share your own tips for getting what you want in the comments.<\/p>","content":[{"type":"text","data":"Let me know what you think and share your own tips for getting what you want in the comments."}],"data":[],"style":{"textAlign":"left","color":"","dropCap":false,"parent_style":{}}}],"app_access":{"can_access":true,"restrict_message":null},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/memberpress.com\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7380","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/memberpress.com\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/memberpress.com\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/memberpress.com\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2474"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/memberpress.com\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7380"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/memberpress.com\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7380\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/memberpress.com\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/15183"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/memberpress.com\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7380"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/memberpress.com\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7380"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/memberpress.com\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7380"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}